Personal Space is a very important social skill for children in elementary school to learn, practice and grow. Understanding and keeping good personal space helps children to engage more successfully in everyday interactions and in personal relationships with peers and adults, as well as helping them to stay safe.
Everyone feels more comfortable when the person they are with respects their personal space. While there some commonly held beliefs on how much space we should give others in any given situation, everyone has their own, unique amount of personal space that they need in order to feel comfortable.
This space changes depending on several factors:
- Who you are with
- What you are doing
- Where you are
Lots of people refer to the space that one needs to have between themselves and someone else, in order to feel comfortable, as their “bubble.” It is generally accepted that we have a smaller “bubble” with family and close friends, than we do with acquaintances, strangers and authority figures.
For children, the bubble can sometimes be the same size for everyone. Also, they tend to think that everyone has the same space bubble that they do. Learning to recognize that everyone is different and has different physical and personal boundaries is an important skill in a child’s development. The teaching of self advocacy is also critical. Learning what they as a person are comfortable with or not comfortable with and how to react to and advocate for themselves in those different situations is a life skill. It is also important to stress that if they are not comfortable they can and indeed should say “No”.




